Jeffery Fab at 50...a Quest for Fabulousity at a Half Century and Beyond

  Greetings! It is great to be back here...a-ranting and a-raving like the good old days. Ah the good old days...when we could walk the streets without facial coverings, interact with friends and family with a hug and/or a kiss, and enjoy some "adult time" with a close friend...new or old.  But  those days seem to be far back in our rear view mirror.  Please, if you haven't done so already, GET VACCINATED ! It doesn't only protect you from the COVID-19 virus, it helps you to protect others as well. Be the example to those you care about who are apprehensive. I can tell you, the virus is a much better alternative to what this virus can do to you.  And as always, my sincerest thanks for checking back in with us. You can look forward to more consistent postings, and some other options to get the word from me as I continue my journey being Fabat50 and beyond.  So let us begin... First, a thank you. Over the last year, life has changed for many of us. No matter ...

  So here we are half the way through another Black History month, and yet another unsatisfactory impeachment trial in the rear view. I have some thoughts on that for another post, so stay tuned. In the meantime, this is something that I leave you, the gentle reader, to ponder. At the core of this missive, is a more moral question; do you think live in a country blighted by racism or is it all media generated noise? lease be sure to share your comments...I look forward to reading them. Before I dive in, a brief disclaimer; the info I am sharing with you is taken directly from a popular gay social media site. It has in no way been altered, or modified, other than to fit the confines of the illustration used to direct attention to what is the heart of this issue. To define “who is who” within the conversation, my responses are in orange, the messages of the other individual involved are in white: just as they appeared in the original message stream. With that said......

The FREAKING Oscars!! Anyone who has known me for a long time knows that I absolutely LOVE Oscars day! Those party’s back in the day…ahh memories. There’s one thing I have grown to love almost as much; Turner Classic Movies. Each year, the month of February they host a “31 Days of Oscar” festival, featuring award winning movies from years past. It’s still going on through the beginning of March, so you can still catch some great films. On this day, even as I write this post, I’m enjoying a true classic, “Gentlemen’s Agreement.” From 1947, it’s the story of a journalist Philip Green who goes “undercover” to write an expose on the rampant anti-Semitism that runs rampant throughout post-war New Your City and the train set, affluent enclaves of New Canaan and Darien Connecticut. It’s a fascinating character study that makes one take a serious look at their own prejudices. A 1947 Classic! President John F. Kennedy used a quote in several speeches that came to mind when I sta...

Do you feel the disconnect? Do you ever feel a disconnect between yourself and the rest of the world? I mean like, you feel like the rest of the populous is privy to the punchline of the funniest joke ever, but not only have you been unable to discern it for yourself, no one is offering any assistance to help either. Now don’t misunderstand, this is not a gnashing of teeth, railing at God, “why me” kind of thing. For me it’s a bit more complex. Gonna try to explain in this missive, so please stick with e if you can. I guess to make sense, I must start at the beginning. This past week I was rocked by the death of not one, not two, but three individuals that had at one time or another been a more regular part of my life. I have had to concluded that at this stage of the game, I should be more prepared for death. Yet a part of me feels as if I should rail against it, rather than add it to greeting card rotation for birthdays and holidays. But how do you attempt to accept som...

Welcome... “Welcome to the new normal” How I hate that phrase! Yet, almost daily, we seem to hear instances that make it clear that existence in our current world has been altered…forever. I am not fearful of change mind you, but what does cause me concern is the potential damage our fluctuating society of today is causing to our generations of the future. Over the next few posts, I will offer my own personal view on the “new normal,” and what it means in a few different facets of our lives. My hope is that you will continue to check back for new posts and begin to discuss what our “new normal” looks like in your own day to day. So, let’s get started! As many of you may know, I have been enjoying my commutes courtesy of the RTD light rail. It’s some of my favorite time as I can sit back and relax and enjoy one of my favorite new obsessions; pod casts! I have to say there is some AMAZING stuff out there, and it is effortless to access. If you aren’t already a fan, I urge...

The face of almost 51! So the big “5-1” is cresting the horizon about now. It gives me cause to look back and reflect and determine if being 50 has been as “fab” as the moniker of this blog would have one believe. It is a very often asked question…kind of. More on that later…but the big question is this; is being 50 really all that fab? Well, I have an answer for you darlings… You bet your sweet ass it is! As many who know me are aware, aging hasn’t ever really been that big a deal for me. “Age is just a number.” “With age comes wisdom.” “Aging ain’t no big thing!” I’ve heard them all…believe me. And platitudes aside, I am reminded every day that I am blessed for the genetics I was gifted at birth. Aside from the few creaks from my joints that greet me occasionally in the morning, I have been very, very fortunate. Aging has truly been a gift…and not just from the physical perspective. Being 50 has been like gaining admission to a very exclusive club, ...

So, as I posted on my Facebook page a feew days ago, I made a quick overnight trip to Phoenix for a job interview. After a whirlwind day of meetings, meetings and more meetings, I made the trek back home to find an email thanking me for my time, but they had decided to move forward with a different candidate. Yes, as you can imagine; profoundly bummed. This could be the reason why I can’t seem to fall asleep. I made a vow a while back that I was no longer going to use Facebook forum as my “armchair therapist,” but I just need to share a few thoughts and this blog post seemed a more appropriate place to "let loose." First, this turning 50 thing has begun to catch up with me a bit I think. Not in the traditional sense of feeling in decline or on a spiral to oblivion (yes, someone wrote that to me after my birthday), or even a more understandable midlife crisis. My struggle is coming from perceptions of others. As many of you know, I have been working incredibly hard to im...

Greetings fans a well wishers! I hope this new year of 2017 is treating you well. Now that the "Fab 50" milestone has been reached, I decided that I would continue this blog as a way to share random thoughts, musings, pet-peeves and deep thoughts. I hope you will come back often, as the content will change frequently. So, with that said, let's get ready to rumble! First, some housekeeping. The original purpose of this blog was to track my progress in losing weight and making some positive life changes ahead of my milestone birthday this past December. We, I am pleased to share with you my final results; I lost a total of about 52 pounds! Approximately, you may ask? Well, like a number of other people on the planet, I wasn't as strict with my food intake as I had been over the holiday season. Oh sure, Thanksgiving came, and went without as much as a ripple on the pond. But then came that treat filled of all the major holidays, Christmas! My vice...sweets! And Chris...

Greetings all! If you recognize the song the title of this blog is from, drop me a private note, and I will send you something fun in a reply. Now...read on! Well, after another long hiatus, I am back in the blogosphere. I first want to say thank you to all of you who have been inquiring when this day would happen; it is appreciated. It has been a challenge getting back to this point, and the expression of concern and support has not only been overwhelming, but incredibly helpful as well. If you chose to read on, it will become a bit clearer why… When I started this blog back in November, I did so with the highest expectations…in myself. I have always tried to be “that guy;” the one you can rely on above all others. But over the last few months, “that guy” has been replace with “this guy;” unsure, unsteady, and not at all on his game. I have had brief periods like this in my life before, but not one that has lasted as long as this. It all seemed to have started just after th...